Tips to Strengthen Your Family!
Remember... Kindness is home
How can we nourish and strengthen
our families in this threatening world?
How can we raise our children so
they grow into adults with full and satisfying lives?
What parent hasnít asked these
The answer is, by teaching our
children about kindness--starting at home. Genuine kindness is
a powerful and life-changing skill that our children need to learn
from us. As all parents know, our children learn from what
we do, not what we say.
Here are 6 hot tips for things
you can DO to strengthen your family
- Demonstrate kindness.
Let your children learn kindness by watching how you treat
others. Let them see you acting with kindness toward your
spouse. Let them experience your appreciation of them and your
generosity toward them--and it neednít be financial
generosity. You can be generous with the time and attention you
give your children. You can be generous with your patience when
they are difficult, and you can be generous with your thanks
when they have done something kind for you.
- Speak with kindness.
Let your children learn kindness by hearing you speak kindly to
othersóto them, to your partner, to people on the phone. For
example, you can ask how your spouseís day went without
listening to their response, or you can ask and really want to
know. You can even be kind to telephone solicitors. It takes
much less energy to say, "No thank you, I think Iíll pass
on that," and hang up (without waiting for a response!),
than it does to get angry and slam down the phone.
- Notice when your partner and
your children need encouragement, and give it to them.
Encouraging someone is one of the kindest things you can do. We
all can remember the devastating effect it can have when someone
tells you that you wonít be able to do something, you arenít
big enough or smart enough or strong enough. The opposite is
also true. Telling someone you believe in them--that they are
big enough or smart enough or strong enough to do the thing they
dream of doing--can have a hugely positive effect on them.
Remember, you can never over-encourage anyone.
- Be courageous.
Learn to say "no" to your family before you
reach your limits. If you need to learn how to say no without
hurting other peopleís feelings, take a look at Margot Silk
Forrestís famous list of "42 Ways to Say No."
Request a copy by clicking here.
- Request kindness. Simply
let your partner and your children know how important it is to
you to be treated with kindness.
- Be kind to yourself.
Even if you are an exhausted single working parent, give
yourself at least one gift of kindness each day. Take time to
sit down and drink a cup of tea or a glass of wine. Read a few
pages of your book or your favorite magazine. Take a short walk.
Listen to some music you love. Spend a half-hour writing in your
journal or doing your hobby. Take a hot bath. Do something that
feels good, soothing, and renewing. Being kind to yourself is
the key to being kind to your family. It gives you the energy to
give to them, and it sets a wonderful example for your children.
Want to know
more about using kindness to improve your life?
KIND. CHANGE THE WORLD!